I have siblings who are not comfortable in the presence of their elderly parents. It is not their fault, per se, they are exactly like their parents,.. and the parents before them. Nor do I think they are unique or rare. In fact, I believe it is quite common in our society. It takes time and effort to find emotional balance with people, and when our parents enter their elderly years the dynamic shifts and we need to start from scratch. Over the last century, with the increasing hustle and bustle of our modern world, no one is taught or conditioned to know when, how, or why to make the effort of emotional balancing. Such things used to be taught as an innate part of a culture.

Justice is not logical. Justice is an emotional balancing.

The old practice of weekly religious meetings was never about preaching logic. It was always about getting community members to sit in the presence of one another long enough to find balance. Life was always harsh, especially for small isolated communities. If farmer Bob and farmer Carl were at odds with each other, that hurt the community and increased risk. Protecting the community requires returning to, and maintaining balance. This was best done by regularly, routinely, reaffirming the emotional balance in the community.

Today it is not possible to find community balance in the same way. Communities are too large, and people travel and interact with far too many people. A new perspective must be adapted, and adopted.