Words, by themselves, are not more than grunts. Evolved grunts, maybe. Advanced grunts,.. but grunts just the same. Used to simply get attention, in a battle for dominance (aggressive or submissive dominance), and little else.  Used to interrupt, distract, and derail, and to then stand by and watch the chaos grow.

To do more with words we have to be patient and take time. Time to think and consider our intentions and our ideas, and time to compose; to respectfully tailor our words to the people we wish to hear and understand us. Lest we should cast our pearls before swine.

Embrace those who are willing to make the effort, because good conversations are like jazz musicians making music. Or, moreover, a night of jazz music. Complete with pauses and breaks, changes in mood and tempo, and leaving everyone involved feeling fulfilled, comforted, and closer to one another.