It is easy to make friends in this world. Simply find a public place that is comfortable and sit there at the same time of day and week repeatedly. It will not take long before other people who frequent the same place at the same time become friendly.

Many think that it is simple familiarity that makes this work. There is more nuance to it, however. A complicated balancing and alignment of emotional energy plays a role.

Our emotional state must be aligned with the environment for there to be a sense of comfort. If we have negative energy, we cannot just go into a place of positive energy and feel comfortable. ( A group of people with shared negative energy can be happy. Or at least appear happy.) So, a little spiritual work is required to make sure we are good and balanced before going to find that comfortable public place to establish ourselves in.

If finding our internal balance is too complicated for some reason, we can also discover what emotional state we are in by noticing the emotional environment that we find comforting. Sort of reverse engineering, if you will. (And if we choose a life of emotional adventure, a clever person will find a series of places, all of different energy, that can be used in succession to slowly walk ourselves back to balance.)

• If our boss is making our life miserable, we might find ourselves in a dive bar commiserating with other miserable people.
• If we already have a place of good energy to go to and our boss makes us miserable, it is wrong to think that we can go there and expect the energy of those people to make everything fine without our having to do anything. (Or, inversely, if our spouse comes home in a miserable state, it is wrong to assume that they should simply change on their own.)
• In a community a balancing is always needed, and balancing takes work from all members. People with good energy must work to give, people who are drained must work to open up, and we all must be ready to absorb the bad energy that a loved one might be carrying. The more people who can share in that last burden the better it is for the community as a whole.

But none of this can be imposed on anyone. All community members must be willing, active and aware of the work of balancing. The more we work to force people into (or out of) our community against their will, the more negative and toxic the emotional energy of the community becomes.