Generally speaking,.. there are three types of people; Lifestyle Driven, Reward Driven, and Goal Driven.

~ Lifestyle Driven people simply want to live a certain way, and they will go to great lengths to achieve and maintain that lifestyle. (The division between work and play is alien to these people.)
~ Reward Driven people are motivated by the a certain reward received periodically. They do not care about the work, nor do they attempt to improve their opportunities, they stay focused on the reward being delivered on schedule. (Often, becoming quiet efficient at keeping it coming.)
~ Goal Driven people have a vision, and they are willing to sacrifice everything and suffer anything in order to achieve it. Goal driven people are often fanatics and impossible to deal with,.. (and the have no idea what play is.)

When looking for a spouse, a wise person would consider these categories. Two Lifestyle Driven people will only be able to maintain a relationship if their desired Lifestyle is compatible. (Think of movie star marriages.) Or, if a Lifestyle Driven person was going to depend on the money that a Reward Driven person was going to bring home, make sure it would be enough. (I shouldn’t need to give an example of this. Goal Driven people should be avoided unless a person is a Lifestyle Driven person who prefers that their spouse is not very present or too involved, or if they are also a Goal Driven person whose vision is to support their Goal Driven spouse.)

It is not so easy to distinguish between these three types of people. For example; most politicians are Lifestyle Driven, the dangerous ones are Reward Driven, but a real leader is Goal Driven. (A healthy government concerned with sustainability would take this into account. It would remove any leader from office once they achieve their stated goal, or pass laws that stipulated what kind of rewards were acceptable for public servants.)

Encouragement should be based on who people are and not on what we might think they should be doing. Lifestyle or Goal Driven people forced to live like a Reward Driven person makes for very unhappy, and often dangerous, people.